Warnings: Homophobia, Transphobia, Sex, Sexual Assault, Molestation
All Boys Aren’t Blue is a powerful memoir about one young man’s reckoning with his identity as a queer black man. The book explores the intersection of race and sexuality and the difficulty of finding one’s identity in a society that systematically oppresses people that fall outside of what is considered “normal.” It is open, honest, and deeply personal, I found myself tearing up many times while reading.
“Navigating in a space that questions your humanity isn’t really living at all. It’s existing. We all deserve more than just the ability to exist.”
I wish that I had a book like this when I was growing up. As a victim of abuse, as a woman still not fully sure of her own identity, as a friend that was ill-equipped to fully understand and help the queer black boys that I knew growing up during their times of need; this book provides much-needed insight into the experiences of LGBTQIA+ people of color.
The greatest takeaway from this book is how intimately connected people are, and how our words and actions no matter how good or bad or big or small have a ripple effect in the lives of others. How important it is to have a voice, to see others like ourselves and likewise be seen, to have the freedom to explore ourselves without the weight of other people’s expectations. To learn from the experiences of others to save ourselves from pain and heartache.